Family

I'm not doing a three part like I usually do.

I believe this subject is big enough is on it's own.

¹fam·i·ly noun \ˈfam-lē, ˈfa-mə-\ 1) a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head

That's the Webster definition of Family.

The book definition if you will.

What about the moral definition of the word?

An ounce of blood is worth more than a pound of friendship. 

~Spanish Proverb

OR

It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons. 

~Johann Schiller

Here's where my day started today:

I woke up at 4:40 when Aaron got up for PT. Normally, I go back to bed and sleep until I have to be up at 8. Today, I rolled over and grabbed my phone. What did I do with my phone? Checked Facebook, of course. I scrolled down my newsfeed with heavy eye-lids only for them to jerk open as wide as possible as I read the words:

  Jon Micah Tolar:  Thank you every one for being there for me. I have done things in my life i regret. Tomorrow i will not wake up. God please forgive me.

I freaked the hell out.

Jon Micah is my cousin and I've grown up with that boy. From cramming into my cozy coupe together, Denver Bronco games in New Orleans, kissing his stinky feet for "good luck" while trying to beat the Harry Potter Original Playstation game, to spending my senior trip with him and his family.

Him, his sister, and mother are the closest to me as far as most family goes.

(With a few other favorite cousins in between *cough*cough* Michael and Justin haha)

As my heart started to race, I quickly hit the home button and speed dialed my mother. I told her what it said.. I also told her I was going to call his sister and find out if she knew. Autumn answered and we talked.

To make a long story a bit shorter...

Games of phone tag started all around and finally we get an answer. Luckily, Micah's step mom had a friend that only lives a few minutes from him and checked up on him.

He's alive and well.

Somebody stole his phone and hacked into his Facebook and has been posting obscene things on not only Facebook, but craigslist as well. What a sick person!! They have no idea the pain they have put his family and friends through!

Like I said in my status...

Don't mess with my family.

My last name may have changed,

but I'm still a Zeigler.

(whether I like it or not)

After saying that, it transitions me into my next segment.

What I would do for my family.

Now back to the beginning of my post.

What is family?

Blood? Legal documents? Common heart?

This is where the line blurs for me.

(NOTE: If you are family reading this...

This DOES NOT leave this blog.)

(The only family that have access to this link

 are my favorite cousins)

(NONE of this to follow (family or not) should be relayed

-in ANY way shape or form-

 to my PARENTS or ANY other family members)

I've hated for so long, somebody who has never been around.

Somebody who has, from what I've heard, abandoned our family.

Somebody I have never been in contact with more than a glace from across the room.

Now?

They are deciding to walk into my life.

So, in attempt to not be hypocritical...

Treat this person with the same love and let the past be the past by the book definition?

Or play by the "moral" definition and just leave things the way they have been for 20 years or more?

Learn more

or

Go with what I know

And if you are reading this,

Don't take offense to my questioning. I wasn't prepared for this. This is something I was ambushed with as a young teen and this side of the fence is all I've ever known. Please pardon my unsure mind.

We'll talk soon.

Boo on life's sticky dilemmas we get put into.

Any one have any thoughts to put towards this?